Let’s be real: decluttering isn’t an innate skill. It’s a muscle we build over time. And just like any skill, teaching kids how to declutter requires patience and a structured approach.
As a former teacher, I’ve found the gradual release method to be incredibly effective for learning new skills, and it works wonders for decluttering too!
How to Declutter with Kids: The Gradual Release Approach
Think of it like this: First, I show you how it’s done (modeling).
Then, we do it together (guiding).
Finally, you do it on your own with my support (independent practice). This is exactly how you can teach your children to declutter their belongings.
Kids accumulate a lot of stuff – gifts, treats, souvenirs, you name it! Just like we make decisions about our own belongings, we need to teach them to do the same.
Decluttering their things for them misses a crucial learning opportunity.
It teaches them that items magically disappear without any consequences for accumulating too much.
Instead, let’s empower them with the skills to make their own choices.
The gradual release approach makes this process manageable and effective.
We’ll start by showing them how it’s done, then guide them through the process, and finally, support them as they take the reins.
This method not only teaches them how to declutter, but also helps them develop valuable decision-making skills that will benefit them throughout their lives.
Be the Model: Show Them How Decluttering Works
When it comes to decluttering with kids, actions speak louder than words.
Include your children in your own decluttering process, even if it’s just for a few minutes.
Think aloud as you sort through your clothes or other items, explaining your thought process.
For example, you could say:
- “Oh, I love this dress! It makes me feel so good. I’m definitely keeping this!”
- “These jeans used to be my favorite. I just don’t wear them anymore and they are taking up so much space. I think it’s time to let someone else be able to use them.”
- “I’m not too sure about if I want to keep this blue shirt or not. I will move it to the front of my closet and if I haven’t worn it by May, then I’m going to donate!”
Adjust your language to your child’s age, but don’t shy away from explaining your decision-making.
Simply observing you will teach them decluttering with kids is a normal part of life.
At this stage, avoid asking them for their opinions. This is about showing them the process, not getting their input.
Be the Guide: Practice Decluttering Together
Next, guide your child through their own decluttering experience.
Choose a time when you can offer support and guidance as they sort through their clothes or toys. Do this shortly after modeling the process so they can easily recall your examples.
Refer back to your own decluttering decisions: “Do you remember when I wasn’t sure if I wanted to keep the blue shirt?”
These examples are powerful tools for teaching your children how to declutter with kids effectively.
Be the Support: Encourage Kids to Declutter Independently
As your children practice and witness your decluttering habits, they’ll begin making decisions independently. This is a huge win! Remember, this takes time and patience.
When they choose to let go of something, celebrate their decision.
Avoid questioning their choices, even if it’s a gift you gave them.
Praise their ability to recognize what serves them and what doesn’t. This is crucial for successful decluttering with kids.
Remember, you’re teaching them a valuable skill that will benefit them throughout their lives.
When Decluttering with Kids Feels Like a Battle: Turning “No” into “Let’s Go!”
1. Lead by Example, Always
First and foremost, never force your child to declutter. Instead, double down on being the model.
Even in the face of stubbornness, continue your own decluttering process and think aloud.
Show them that decluttering is a normal, positive activity. If they see you doing it, they’ll be more likely to join in eventually.
2. Check Your Own Decluttering Vibe
Let’s be honest, are you excited about decluttering?
Kids are incredibly perceptive. If you’re dreading it, they’ll pick up on that.
Show genuine enthusiasm for the process, and they’ll be more inclined to follow your lead.
Remember, your attitude is contagious!
3. Make Decluttering with Kids a Fun Adventure!
Decluttering doesn’t have to be a chore! Turn it into a fun game or activity.
Let them choose the music – even if it’s ‘Baby Shark’ on repeat (for a short time!).
Set a timer for short bursts of decluttering, like 5-minute sprints. Break the task into small, manageable chunks.
And get creative! Put a basketball hoop above the donate box and let them toss items in.
The more engaging and playful you make it, the more likely they are to participate.
“Remember, if you’re bored or unenthusiastic, your child will be too. Create buy-in by making it an enjoyable experience, and continue to be the shining example they need.
Decluttering with Kids: Find Your Inspiration & Support!
Ready to create a calmer, more manageable space for your family?
I’m passionate about helping families declutter and organize because I’ve seen firsthand how it positively impacts every aspect of life.
Let’s get you unstuck, reduce overwhelm, and boost productivity – and it all starts with decluttering your space. Here’s how we can work together:
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I’ll help you navigate the process, simplifying your space for easy maintenance. Contact me today to schedule a consultation!
✔️ Join the Decluttering Conversation
Got questions or decluttering wins with kids (and grandkids) to share? Drop them in the comments below!
Let’s connect and support each other.
Or, for a more personal chat, email me at bonnie@binyourspace.com. I’m here to help you create a space you love!
Bonnie Hintenach | Professional Organizer for Homes & Classrooms | Maryland Professional Organizer
